Dearest Tom,
I’ve been thinking about this long and hard and I’ve come to the conclusion that we should go our separate ways. I’ve been in the place you’re in right now, and it was an emotional hell I never want to repeat; an emotional hell I would never wish onto any one, especially the ones that I love. I was in so much agony, I wanted to walk away from the relationship (and tried on several occasions), but I loved the person too much to do it. Luckily this person saw my agony, and despite the fact that it would cause himself immense pain, he loved me enough to be selfless and cut me loose so I could be happy. He couldn’t provide me what I need to be secure and happy in a relationship. When he was happy because he was getting what he needed from the relationship, I was unhappy because it meant me being deprived of what I needed, and me not being myself. The same thing happened when he gave me what I needed. If our needs weren’t
so diametrically opposed and immensely important, it wouldn’t have been a big threat to our relationship and our individual happiness. I see the same
thing with us right now. If I give a little to compromise, I loose a
lot of happiness and sanity. I love you very much and I want you to be
happy. I was so glad (in the long run) that I was cut loose. I now have
the freedom to find someone that I don’t have to change in order to get
my most important emotional needs met. I think in a relationship, these
are the most important needs to be met. I don’t think our relationship
should be this hard this soon. It is definitely bad timing. I wanted to tell
you this in person, but I didn’t know if it would come out right, or if it
would make things even more painful. I would love to say good-bye to
you, though. If not in person, at least over the phone. I love you. I wish
we only fell in love with the people we’re compatible with. It seems to be my curse.Tell me if you want me to stop by or call you.
Love always and forever,
Megan.
